you know what? you can do everything under the sun to make someone like you - be nice, be sweet, be honest. show concern, ask questions. try opening up and then try to shrug off the less-than-open reactions. show strength, show weakness. flat out ask if you've offended someone. try to be a friend and figure out what is is that defines being a friend for the other person.

but the basic reality of the situation is, sometimes, that there's nothing you can do. there are someones out there (yes, i intentionally used poor grammar) who are just not, at least at this moment in time, willing to be a friend back. whatever the situation appeared to be in the past doesn't matter. whatever the future holds doesn't matter right now. the fact remains that for the present, it's just not going to happen.

and know what? that's ok. it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, doesn't necessarily mean there's anything wrong with the other person. it's just how things are. and that's got to be perfectly fine because there is nothing under the sun that will change the situation, so why worry about it and why fight it? there are more important things to focus on, more important things to worry about.

i'm here, i'm open to friendship and i remain determined to make my place here. if people don't want to be a part of that right now - or, if there's something making people hesitate, at least - i'm here when they want to be. if they don't, i'm not going to feel like there's something wrong with me.

how about that for being self-confident?